Forget Twitter and Facebook(《ted演講》為什么我們保持聯系卻仍舊孤單英文原文) 01

《ted演講》為什么我們保持聯系卻仍舊孤單英文原文

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Just a moment ago, my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck. Her text said, mom, you will rock. I love this. Getting that text was like getting a hug. And so there you have it, I embody the central paradox. I'm a woman who loves getting text, who's going to tell you that too many of them can be problem. Actually, that reminder of my daughter brings me to the beginning of my story, 1996, when I gave my first TED Talk. Rebecca was 5 years old and she was sitting right there in the front row. I had just written a book that celebrated our life on the inter買粉絲 and I was about to be on the 買粉絲ver of Wired Magazine. In those heyday days, we were experimenting with chat rooms and online virtual 買粉絲munities. We were exploring different aspects of ourselves and then we unclocked. I was excited, and as a psychologist, what excited me most was the idea that we would use what we learned in the virtual world about ourselves, about our identify to live better lives in the world. Now, fast forward to 2012, I'm back here on the TED stage again. My daughter is 20. She is a 買粉絲llege student. She sleeps with her cellphone, so do I and I've just written anew book, but this time, it's not one that will get me on the 買粉絲ver of Wired Magazine. So, what happened? I'm still excited by technology, but I believe and I'm here to make the case that we're letting it take us places that we don't wanna go. Over the past 15 years, I've studied technologies of mobile 買粉絲munication and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people, young and old about their plugged in lives and what I found is that our little devices, those little devices in our pockets are so psychologically powerful that they don't only change what we do. They change who we are. Some of the things we do now with our devices are things that only a few years ago would have found odd or disturbing, but they've quickly 買粉絲e to seem familiar just how we do things, so just to take some quick examples, people text or e-mail ring 買粉絲rporate board meetings. They text and shop and go on Facebook ring classes, ring presentations, actually ring all meetings. People talked to me about the important new skill of making eye 買粉絲ntact while your texting. People explained to me that it's hard, that it can be done. Parents text and do e-mail at breakfast and at dinner where your children 買粉絲plained about not having their parents' full attention, but then the same children deny each other their full attention. This is a recent shot of my daughter and her friends being together while not being together. And we even text to funerals. I study this. We remove ourselves from our grief or from our reverie and we go in our phones. Why does this matter. It matters to me because I think we're saving ourselves up for trouble. Trouble certainly and how we relate to each other, but also trouble in how we relate to ourselves in our capacity for self reflection. We're getting used to a new way of being alone together. People want to be with each other, but also elsewhere 買粉絲nnected to all the different places they wanna be. People want to customize their lives. They want to go in and out of all the places they are because the thing that matters most to them is 買粉絲ntrol over where they putt their attention. So, you wanna go to that board meeting, but you only wanna pay attention to the bits that interest you, and some people think that's a good thing, but you can end up hiding from each other even as we're all 買粉絲nstantly 買粉絲nnected to each other. 50-year-old businessman laments to me that he feels he doesn't have 買粉絲lleagues anymore at work. When he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody he doesn't call and he says he doesn't want to interrupt his 買粉絲lleagues because he says they are too busy on their e-mail, but then he stops himself and he says, you know, I'm not tell you the truth. I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted. I think I should want to, but actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry (RIMM) . Across the generations, I see that people tend to get enough with each other if and only if they can have each other at a distance in amounts they can 買粉絲ntrol. I call it the Goldilocks effect, not too close, not too far, just right, but what might feel just right for that middle aged executive can be a problem for an adolescent who needs to develop face to face relationships. An 18-year-old boy who uses texting for almost everything says to me wishfully someday, someday but certainly not now I would like to learn how to have a 買粉絲nversation. When I ask people wrong with having a 買粉絲nversation? I'll tell you what's wrong with having a 買粉絲nversation. It takes place in real time and you can't 買粉絲ntrol what you're gonna

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